Lifelong INFJ who has agreed with 99 percent of your posts but thinks this one off. I’ve thought about this a lot bc one would think deep thinkers want to share — but I don’t write because I so appreciate good writing, the perfect image , the heartbreaking story — I’ve always thought it is almost “irreverent” to try. Good writing is so laborious (noticed my lane writing here :)) that I’ve just filed it as don’t pretend you’re an athlete. Yes there is a self protective element here. But I have no problem appearing letting go or thinking out loud in front of people
People can rebut this but I think it also correlates with my extroverted feeling —- I don’t want to out you in a situation where you have to comment on my writing and I feel like I can’t share how much good writing or poetry moves me
This actually reinforces the point I was trying to make.
You say you don't want to write because you have respect for the form, but you are fine thinking out loud. Of course, just like there are great writers, there are great orators, debaters and extemporaneous speakers.
I think for you the real difference is that speaking lets you adjust in real time. Writing doesn’t. Once something's written, it’s fixed. People can interpret it however they want, and you don’t get to manage that interaction.
And this is exactly my point: The more an INFJ wants to control what people think of them the harder it is for them to write. But in the same way you trust yourself to have good ideas when you think out loud, you could decide to trust yourself that you have good ideas when you write also.
i am an infj
immersed all week in writing
am not a potential group member
just want to say wow
your deep insights here are stunning
i am inspired to cut loose more:)
thank you for writing this valuable essay
That makes me so happy to hear!
I love how this comment looks and feels like a haiku! 🥰
Lifelong INFJ who has agreed with 99 percent of your posts but thinks this one off. I’ve thought about this a lot bc one would think deep thinkers want to share — but I don’t write because I so appreciate good writing, the perfect image , the heartbreaking story — I’ve always thought it is almost “irreverent” to try. Good writing is so laborious (noticed my lane writing here :)) that I’ve just filed it as don’t pretend you’re an athlete. Yes there is a self protective element here. But I have no problem appearing letting go or thinking out loud in front of people
People can rebut this but I think it also correlates with my extroverted feeling —- I don’t want to out you in a situation where you have to comment on my writing and I feel like I can’t share how much good writing or poetry moves me
This actually reinforces the point I was trying to make.
You say you don't want to write because you have respect for the form, but you are fine thinking out loud. Of course, just like there are great writers, there are great orators, debaters and extemporaneous speakers.
I think for you the real difference is that speaking lets you adjust in real time. Writing doesn’t. Once something's written, it’s fixed. People can interpret it however they want, and you don’t get to manage that interaction.
And this is exactly my point: The more an INFJ wants to control what people think of them the harder it is for them to write. But in the same way you trust yourself to have good ideas when you think out loud, you could decide to trust yourself that you have good ideas when you write also.
Ouch. Hurts a bit but you might be right. Thinking on this
I like reading best when I feel a little ouch, so I’ll take this as a compliment. I appreciate that we can do ouch together. Thank you.